Have you ever been accused of things which are not true and it causes you stress and anxiety?

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I am currently reading the book by Brennan Manning, “The furious longing of God” which is a very deep book. You have to keep all distractions away to ensure you get the message from the book. One of the chapters talks about the part of us that everyone sees and there is also this other part which we don’t show to others and sometimes we are not aware of ourselves but God sees and knows.

Over my lifetime I have had my share of being accused of being something that I know I am not in my professional  life and also in my personal life. At the time you get such an attack it can set you back and make you think that maybe there is some truth in what you have been told. If you have been in that situation of being accused of things which are not true I want to say stop right now and don’t entertain or embrace those lies.

If you are a believer and follower of Jesus Christ as I am, we are told that you will face persecution and not everyone will love or like you and I get that. When we are faced with the onslaught of things that are said that are not true we forget what the bible says and in that in moment we have our own private pity party. If you are in that place right now I want to say to you dismiss those untrue words. Don’t entertain those words because that’s not who you are. Stand on what God says you are.

I remember always saying to my team early on in my career that I don’t want people to remember me for being a fun-loving person who is unreliable or incapable of doing the job. Sometimes we are so focused on getting people to like us that we compromise on our values and principles. We become too friendly with people who we need to be professional with. My mantra was always, I was at work to do a good job and if during that process I made friends then great but if not I always believed that I would be remembered for someone who was great at doing their job and not just someone who you could have a good laugh with.

It is sometimes very difficult to have a good balance between being good at your job and being a friendly and fun-loving person at the same. I realise that it is my natural tendency to do a good job in anything that I am doing especially if I find myself in a leadership role. In my personal life I also want to do things well and do it to the best of my ability. I apply some of the professional approach to what I do personally. Recently this has caused me some stress and unwarranted vilification which I would honestly say I did not deserve. I am glad I know that I am a child of God and I am aware of what the bible says when it says in Ephesians 6:12 “For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms.” I was able to not retaliate as I would have wanted as I realise that a “tit for tat “ situation does not help anyone.

Whilst you need to not entertain the lies that have been said I would also like to say at the same time these situations happen for a reason and you should always try to see the positive side of things. I ask you again, "have you ever been accused of things which are not true and it causes you stress and anxiety?" I believe that every feedback even when it is not in the tone and language that we would like it to be, even when the things are said are not true, it is an opportunity to look for the lesson we need to learn from this. It is a teachable moment. We should examine it and as we do so, we will find out that some part of it can be taken onboard. It might be that you keep that person at a distance, or you change the way you communicate with them. You definitely don’t carry on the same as before.

I believe that life is about learning something new or reminding us of things we have forgotten in every situation whether good or bad. If you have been in a situation where you had been dealt a hard blow by someone or been accused of things which are unmerited don’t just sit and ruminate on it without taking onboard the lessons that you are supposed to get out of that situation. Ensure that you don’t get yourself in the same situation a second time.

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